The Aftermath

So after getting our news yesterday, I went to my parents house and pulled an all nighter to watch the Royal Wedding. I grew up with a mom who loves all things royal and follows the royals, so it's only natural that it rubs off on me. Mom and I stayed up all night and I kept myself busy following that.

But all night I was going through hot and cold phases. One second I'm fine, the next I'm crying. Then I have a game plan, then I'm second guessing myself and crying again.

My friends have been finding out. I told one of them and asked them to pass it onto those that I was suppose to see this weekend. My friends are supportive but they don't know what to say. Then they end up saying things that they think are helpful but in reality, does nothing but make me angry and upset.

C and I have a couple that we hang out with and do stuff together and they more or less have become our mentor couple. We can talk to them about just about anything. C told them over the phone what happened and they invited us up for a bit. C and the other hubby went for ice cream and the girl poured me a glass of wine and we sat out on her step. It was a nice warm night so we just sat there and chatted.

Then she asked me, so how are you? And I answered her honestly. I'm miserable. Then I told her all the details. She let me cry, she let me let it all out. She didn't use any cliche lines, she didn't invade my personal space and she did refill my glass Then when I was done, she looked at me and said, "you need this, don't pretend you don't. Give yourself time to be miserable it's part of tge process and you need a few days to process it all. Don't short yourself on this. So what are you gonna do once you finish getting over the blah feelings and the crying? What's the gameplan?"

Sometimes you have those people that don't try to fix it but still manage to know exactly what to do to help you feel a bit better. I have some amazing friends and they all play their part. Tonight, I'm grateful for her.


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