Two of a kind?

So for those not in the know, there are different types of infertility. There's issues with the woman which can be broken down into many different types. There's male factor (no swimmers, low swimmers or swimmers who just aren't swimming). There is also the mysterious "there is nothing physically wrong with either of you to prevent this pregnancy" infertile. C and I are dealing with male factor (he has swimmers, they are just not swimming). 

So I have this "partner in infertility" (as I've taken to lovingly call her). Like me, she is having fertility issues as well. But this friend lands in the mysterious "unknown reasons" category. She's been checked and cleared as healthy. He's been checked and rechecked and hes fine, his swimmers are fine. There is no explanation as to why they are having such difficulty getting pregnant. They have been trying for just about 4 years now. And if anyone understands my issues and heartache, its this girl.

We have been talking a lot lately, hanging out. We were doing some work together for our high school reunion. When plans changed with the other reunion people one night, we went for a drive and just talked. We both really opened up to each other about our issues. And it was a relief to have someone to talk to who simply just gets it. She understand the feelings, emotions, the sudden changes and mood swings and the nights of crying yourself to sleep. She has two siblings, her younger sister has a daugther (and she idolizes that little girl), and her brother has 3 kids and the 3rd child was born on the 11th.

I texted friend about something random and she sent back a simple text: "brother and wife had baby last night, im watching the video of the baby and crying a bit. I feel bad for crying but I can't help it." My heart ached for her. I know that pain. So I send back what I feel: "I understand, its ok to cry. Call me if you need me." I picked her up today to do registration for an event we are doing together and when she got in the car, I asked her how she was doing and asked if she needed a hug. She was fine and thanked me. But told me that having someone to share that feeling with who wouldn't judge her made it easier. And shes right. I can look at her and say, "Ma told me about a highschool friend who's pregnant and she told me on the day my period started" and she just knows what I mean. I don't have to explain it. She knows and there's comfort in that. It sucks that we both have to be in this situation, but if we have to be in it, at least we have someone we can lean on when it gets difficult.

So today, while we waited in line, we both felt a bit lighter and today was one of the days where this simply was a temporary problem and we could see it as that. So we talked about how we would decorate our nursery's and it didn't hurt cause if one of us went too deep, the other was there to pull us out. Thank you A for making today one of those "this is only a temporary problem" day.

xoxo
K